Cell Block Legendz realizes that just about everyone can use a mental boost, push, some encouragement, and support when dealing with life in general. We are kicking off our Inspiration platform with some small figurative gifts of inspiration for you! Enjoy and be inspired!
Why People Want What They Want
Even When It’s Not Good
There is no denying the fact that at some points in our lives, we have been around people (friends, families, and acquaintances) who have made some head-scratching decisions that have made us question their sanity. They knew darn well that they should not have eaten that half a gallon of ice cream after complaining that they want to lose weight. They knew better but did not do better when they ran back into that abusive romantic relationship that shredded their hearts to pieces and continuously jeopardized their safety and mental well-being.
Yet, in her mind, she's already decided that the man who has wreaked havoc on her heart and shown nothing but red flags after red flags will be waiting for her in front of the church to put a ring on it OR he has constantly disregarded that she is no longer interested in him after five years of having nothing in common, but heated arguments, name-calling, hostile demeanors, and threats of orders of protection.
Perhaps, one stubbornly wanted to figuratively or maybe even literally test shark-infested waters. After all, one is used to getting what one wants no matter what, right? Well, although some sharks may not pose danger, there are others that do like a great white shark. You may only be on the lookout for sharks not realizing that you can run into a box jellyfish, blue-ringed octopus, stingray, or crocodile. Therefore, it is best to be armed with things like knowledge, facts, a plan, and even a backup plan before just diving into or staying in situations headfirst that are bad.
Sometimes, when you sit back to ponder on why your friend has been staying in that abusive relationship all this while, or why your favorite undisciplined nephew who rarely practices improving his skills can’t move on from that seemingly doomed dream of being an NBA star, even when he is just under 5 feet tall and sucks at basic movements, you find it all unbelievable to fathom. However, what you must know is, there are a lot of reasons why people act against their best interest when it’s bad for them.
It might not make sense to you, and sincerely, most of the reasons they do have don’t make any sense. Yet, it does certainly make a great deal of sense to them, and only a vastly superior argument or highly undesirable outcome would even make them stop and think about their position a bit. Hopefully, it doesn’t come down to the latter.
For this article, we decided to take a break from the tragic COVID-19 coronavirus news and delve into something different. Even throughout this reported pandemic, life still happens, and we wish to inspire you to get through it. Before we get started, let’s not pretend that we did not do some less than stellar acts that would put soap operas and reality TV shows to shame. Thus, this inspirational article may be a learning tool or chance to reflect on your past to stay focused and on a safe, healthy, and positive path and future.
11 Reasons People Want What They Want
Even When It’s Bad for Them
Have you been wondering what could be the reason why people want what they want, even when such things seem wrong and bad for them in all ramifications? We are going to be sharing some of the best-known reasons for this self-sabotaging behavior in this article.
What better reason can we start with? Over the years, we have come to understand that a lot of people do things that they don’t understand. People jump on things, careers, jobs, relationships, etc. because other people are doing it, and not because that is what they should be doing. A lot of people do things they know nothing about, and some are even unaware that they are hurting themselves in the process. This is why they would probably laugh it off or just shut you down when you mention it to them that they are probably getting hurt. Some people may have heard the old adage, “If you know better, then you’d do better”. Ah, if only things always worked that way. Knowledge is the foundation that we cannot afford to live without. Expand one’s knowledge base or be around people with open minds who aren’t afraid to learn as much as they can about anything and everything and learn something new every day. It may save you from a lot of negative issues.
The Need to Prove a Point
Another reason why people stay in abusive relationships, jobs, or do things that may tangibly hurt them without fully weighing the negative consequences is that they want to prove a point. They may want to prove a point to themselves or others. Now, we must strongly emphasize that some of these points are unnecessary, but they usually don’t care. They just feel the need to win the bragging rights and earn the right to tell you, ‘I told you so’. For instance, your friend who is in that abusive relationship might continue to suffer in the relationship, just to prove a point to you that you were wrong about their partner in the first place or that they can go the distance and stay together longer than Jane and John Doe despite ongoing emotional, verbal, and physical abuse and toxicity. Yes, people go that distance to prove a point that isn’t worth proving. Doing away with the need to seek approval or validation from others and focusing on building self-worth can help you to avoid negative outcomes.
Lack of Experience
A lack of experience regarding how things work out maybe one of the reasons why some people want what they want, even when those things are disadvantageous to them in a lot of ways. This may apply in life or business. When people are not entirely sure of how things may work out regarding what they want, they might make the mistakes of sticking around hoping things would get better when they should have left long ago. For instance, a seasoned business executive knows when to invest and when to pull the plug on investments when the business climate is not welcoming. However, an inexperienced business executive who probably thrives on passion would go all out even when the signs show it would hurt his/her business badly. Learning from your past experiences or the experiences and errors of others can be helpful in avoiding negative consequences.
Low Self Esteem
Low self-esteem is another reason why people want what they want, even when it’s not healthy. Some folks are suffering from significantly low self-esteem and they don’t believe they deserve better than what they are currently getting. We’ve heard of stories of individuals who would prefer to stay in relationships where they are constantly abused and merely tolerated because they think they aren’t worth having anything better from anywhere else for whatever reason. Building one’s self-esteem, self-worth, and self-image can help one to avoid (self) sabotage and connect with others who are not abusive, critical, and toxic.