8 Things You Can Do If You're Always Feeling Lonely
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Whether we admit it or not, the fact is that almost all of us have felt lonely at some point in time. Yes, loneliness is real, and it can affect people a lot. If you think about it, there may have been a time when you felt no real connection with the outside world, nothing really seemed to interest you, and boredom became the order of the day. At that point, you may have felt lonely. Quite a lot of people may feel lonely, so if you're experiencing loneliness at the moment, know that you're not the only one. In fact, according to a Statista survey, approximately 33% of adults worldwide are lonely.
The main reason why some people may get lonely is a lack of a social life. People may get so engulfed in their careers and the like at the detriment of their social lives. In most cases, this may lead to loneliness. The reasons why people have poor social lives can include low self-esteem, introversion, and even depression in some instances. All these can be tagged as causes of loneliness as well. One can also get lonely after a romantic breakup or divorce, among other things.
As much as being lonely can be so painful, it's not all as bad as some people may want to make you believe. There are some advantages to being lonely. Improved productivity is a good example of loneliness as a benefit. And that's because you get fewer distractions when alone, which means you can focus more on projects and increase your productivity.
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Here are eight things you can do if you're always feeling lonely:
1. Go out and connect with people in the real world.
As much as one can still feel lonely even in the midst of a crowd, a good way to fight loneliness or boredom is to go out and connect with people or people watch in safe places. Visually observe any positive and encouraging connections you see others make between themselves with their shared interests or passions. This can inspire good feelings inside of you, but most importantly, you must learn to connect to a meaningful place within yourself when not around others. If you are going out to connect with people in an attempt to fight loneliness, it should be people of like minds. If you must deal with and overcome loneliness, quit locking yourself up in the room all day and night and doing nothing, but gloating. One thing is, we're all interconnected with one another as far as the world is concerned, so there's actually no point in avoiding people. It’s important to interact with others in ways that open the door for genuine and meaningful connections. An occasional alternative to meeting in person with family, friends, and others is to throw a weekend Zoom video conferencing “party” where everyone who attends meets on Zoom as a group and shares how their week went, what their plans are or were, and laugh about enjoyable memories.
2. Engage in meditation or prayer.
One of the most effective ways to deal with and overcome loneliness is no doubt through prayer to one’s higher power or by engaging in meditation. You can set aside a few minutes every day to pray or meditate. No matter how unpleasant it seems if you pray and mediate and do not hear a real voice on the other end of your prayer or meditation, embrace the thought of having your Higher Power’s undivided attention and have faith that you are not spiritually alone.
3. Practice gratitude.
Most often than not, you tend to feel lonely by thinking life isn't kind to you as it should be. It's okay to think that way just not all the time. A lot of people may feel slighted by what seems like life’s anti-social personality. But then, if you critically look around you, there are lots of beautiful things you should be grateful for when you are alone and have time to yourself. If you must win the war against loneliness and fight boredom, you must learn to practice gratitude. Be grateful for things you're blessed with instead of lamenting over those you might not actually need in the real sense of the word. A simple way to do this is to make a list of things that make you feel good about yourself. Make a list of good memories. It can be a place you travel to or travel with a loved one. It could be a goal you accomplished in the past. Just anything that makes you feel positively alive or excited about your life.
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4. Get yourself a pet.
Experts have stated that owning a pet or even just playing with animals is a good way to fight the feeling of loneliness. As revealed by research, the presence of a living creature near you can help with relieving stress and boosting your mood and wellness.
5. Learn to be content in your own company.
Learning to be content in your own company can mean embracing internal peace while alone and not depending on the presence or absence of others to make you feel relevant or irrelevant. This is because learning to be content in your own company can enable you to connect with yourself and/or nature, which has a way of boosting or soothing your mood, and the figurative sound of silence that can bring peace after a stressful and chaotic day. Whether you choose to sit alone in your room and read a book while your family is downstairs or no one else is home, go alone and see the flower gardens, or visit your favorite parks, lakes, rivers, and mountains near you, it can be a new and fulfilling experience to conquer the challenge of always feeling like you must have others around to be happy and fulfilled.
6. Take a break from social media.
While you can connect with anyone across the globe today in a jiffy on the different social media platforms, that's no real connection. Social media has no doubt robbed us of human-to-human connection. One of the surest ways to deal with and overcome loneliness is to take a break from social media. This may push you to connect with real people offline and overcome your lack of a social life.
7. Engage in things you're passionate about.
When you feel no real connection with the outside world and loneliness sets in, do not fret. One of the best ways to deal with and overcome loneliness is by doing the things you're passionate about whether it’s crocheting a blanket or building a backyard deck. It's true that you can experience boredom to the extent that even things you enjoy doing might not appeal to you anymore. But, you can push yourself to engage in new hobbies you may become passionate about.
8. Seek the help of a professional.
If you have tried out some or all the above-outlined points and it's not working, perhaps you should seek the help of a professional. Don't try too hard to have it all figured out by yourself. Professionals exist for a reason. And, that's to help you in such a time as this. Consider talking with a professional. A professional can help you to identify the root cause of your loneliness and devise ways to deal with and overcome it.
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The good news is that sometimes, you do need to spend a dime to speak with a professional. There is quite a bit of support hotlines for loneliness, depression, and isolation that have certified counselors who are devoted to seeing you deal with loneliness, for free, and can make referrals to community agencies in your city. Consider getting in touch with them.