5 Ways To Successfully Deal With People Who Get On Your Nerves
Have you recently been concerned with how to successfully deal with people who get on your nerves? This can be frustrating and occasionally irritating because you may not know how to handle such people. It can be difficult to notice this the first time it happens. But repeatedly, this person or group of people can leave you exhausted and disrupt your inner peace by being consistently annoying. The big question is, how do you interact with people tactfully without feeling bothered and letting them get under your skin? In this article, we will offer solutions on how to deal with annoying people and calm your nerves.
But first, you need to identify the things people do that get on someone’s nerves. Here are some of them:
1. Noisy Eating Or Drinking: When people chew their food, smack when they eat, or slurp their beverages loudly, half the time, they have no idea how annoying it is to others. They may smack or loudly chew their food and belch while on the phone or at the dinner table. Have you ever experienced a noisy eater and wondered if they could not hear themselves? This is because they probably do not or may not be aware of their noisy eating or drinking because they are so into savoring what they’re eating or drinking. Loud or noisy eating or drinking is an improper habit. They may not only get on people’s nerves but can be considered bad table manners. The slurping from a cup or going chomp-chomp on your meal can make you be considered an annoying person who gets on someone’s nerves.
2. Lateness (Tardiness): It is acceptable when a person is late for an event one time depending on the venue or occasion, but almost not excusable when it happens repeatedly. Imagine that you have a business partner who always comes a few minutes late to meetings. It can tilt the plans for the day, with no regard for anything else you or others must do regarding your time, but also the goals you have to achieve all the time. Being repeatedly late or tardy is a sign of disrespect to and disregard for others that involves a sense of entitlement. It can also be considered rude, and people will see you as irresponsible. If you’re wondering how to tactfully interact with a co-worker or friend who is always late or “fashionably late”, then keep reading.
3. Ignoring Personal Hygiene: If there is one thing that can get on a person’s nerves, it is when another person pays no attention to their body’s cleanliness. Although it is easy to avoid people with poor hygiene and bad odor, it can become unavoidable when someone lives in the same space or works with you. Poor personal hygiene can lead to diseases and health implications. It can lead to tooth decay, body or head lice, and bad breath which can be unbearable and get on people’s nerves. If your housemate has poor personal hygiene and has their dirty items littered around the house, this can become a problem for you too. It can get on people’s nerves if they are constantly subjected to foul body odor.
4. Intentional Nerve Wrecking: Have you ever dealt with someone who seemed to get a thrill out of annoying or irritating others with a smile or smirk on their face? Some folks can be passive-aggressive and live to get a kick out of rousing others, ruffling their feathers, and getting on their nerves. It can be at home or work.
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Some other things that can get on someone’s nerves include spitting on the sidewalk or in an open space, obnoxious gum chewing or snapping, talking loudly and ignoring the privacy of others, and correcting bad grammar even though some people draw the line at bad grammar. The reason for a thing getting on your nerves might be peculiar to you. Detaching your emotions or disassociating from what’s getting on your nerves can be challenging, but manageable.
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However, here are 5 tips on how to deal with annoying people who get on someone’s nerves.
Practice breathing exercises: One quick way to calm your nerves is by focusing on your breathing. This way, you channel your energy to your breathing, and it helps you not to react quickly. When we breathe deeply and gently, it sends a direct message to our brain. Next time a cashier is extremely slow, or a co-worker says or does something annoying, take a deep breath, hold it for four seconds, and release the breath. Take a slight break and go at it again. It can help calm your nerves.
Pay attention to things you can change: It can be difficult to change a person or a situation. If you have a housemate who chews loudly or has poor personal hygiene, have an honest conversation with them. Keep in mind that they may decide to ignore your opinion or see no problem with themselves. In this situation, pay attention to the things you can change. Ensure you properly clean your side of the house or help with theirs. Use air fresheners and crack your car or house windows. You can also decide to have your meals in a separate space or move out altogether if a friendly conversation doesn’t help the situation. This way, you don’t take regrettable actions when they annoy you with their bad habits.
Speak up and set boundaries: Politely using your voice is how you tactfully interact with others without feeling bothered. If you like to be alone and someone is constantly getting on your nerves by disrupting your alone time, be bold enough to let them know. Let them know that it isn't a great time for you to either talk, hang out, or be in the same space with them at that moment. Have you had one of those people who repeatedly talk to you when you're trying to focus on something? It can be a bit difficult to speak to them without one party getting offended. An example of a quick way to set boundaries is by wearing headphones or earplugs. This shows them that you’re engrossed in something, and they can come back later.
Express your feelings: Most people who get on your nerves are probably ignorant of their behavior. It is important to have an honest and tactful conversation with them. One key thing to know is that this conversation should focus on you and how this individual makes you feel. This way, they may see how their behavior affects you and decide to change. By saying “I” instead of “you”, reduces the tension and adds a more considerate tone to the conversation.
Be thoughtful: Your co-workers might always come to your desk with their everyday problems because they believe you are a good listener and might have no idea how they get on your nerves. It is key to realizing their emotions. Venting on you is a coping mechanism for them. It is important to be thoughtful but remember to set boundaries because your mental health is a priority. Let them know that you may be available during your break.
There may be one person who gets under your skin. It is almost impossible to avoid annoying people completely, but you can try these tips to calm your nerves. Learn to tactfully address individuals, detach, disassociate, and/or focus on positive energy. Identify your triggers and try to avoid them. Find a way to distract yourself and if you can, leave the space. It is also essential to know that being calm or tactful when people annoy you does not make you a weak person. It makes you someone who knows how to best handle situations regarding what annoys you or gets on your nerves.
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These are tips on how to tactfully interact with others without feeling bothered. It is better to speak up than bottle emotions and make things worse for yourself. Exploding or becoming enraged can risk you or someone else getting physically hurt. Try to have an honest conversation. Remember, you can always seek the help and support of others.
Have you had someone get on your nerves recently? How did you handle this?