10 Reasons Why Some People Love Drama So Much And How To Best Avoid It
Let’s face it. Some
individuals can’t live without drama. Life is filled with ups and downs, and
most of the time, these ups and downs are just a bunch of mind-blowing dramatic
events. One thing that causes transitions or changes in an individual’s life is
drama. Drama is like a magnet for some people and oil and water for others. Drama
can change the way you decide to interact with others, where you go, and even
the things you do.
While most people may think
dramatic people are just hyperactive human beings, other people may think
dramatic people use drama as an excuse to distract themselves from the reality
of life, and this can be one of the worst ways to handle an issue or a problem.
This is part of the addiction to drama, wanting to feel good about everything
and oneself at other people’s expense.
So, What Is Drama?
Drama to some people is interesting.
It can give them the sense and feeling of being important, busy, and actively
involved in something. It may also cause some people to believe that it helps
them emotionally. As much as some people think it’s okay to be dramatic, it
isn't. Drama can become addictive and give some individuals a feeling of being
alive and productive. Drama can make you secrete endorphins, which we all know are
pain suppressants. It can also be pleasure-inducing, which also looks like
being addicted to drugs. This may be why someone may feel compelled to cause
drama and create a scene out of a situation where one doesn't exist. They may
include themselves in situations that don’t concern them and not even feel
guilty while they’re calm so they make a bigger deal out of issues.
How To identify A Dramatic Individual
In general terms, there are two
kinds of people in this world. There are ones who try to avoid conflicts at any
cost and those who love to stir up conflicts. But how do you truly know if someone
is dramatic if you’re dramatic?
Here are some signs on how to
know if you love drama:
·
You Unjustifiably Play The Victim
Dramatic people tend to view
themselves as a victim in other people's stories, which sometimes makes them
very sensitive to certain things, even when they initiate or provoke
negative situations.
·
You Love Getting Attention
People who love to get attention
and cannot do without it are drama seekers. If you constantly try to convince
yourself that you’re important, more important than others, and deserve to
always be in the spotlight, then you may possibly love drama.
·
You Create Problems At Work
How to avoid drama at work isn't
much of a big deal, but a drama king or queen wouldn't know how to go about
this. Going to work can be very stressful and annoying, but if you’re always in
a position where you gossip at the water cooler, throw out people's names, or
include yourself in other people's business, then you probably love drama.
·
You Create Rough Waters In Your Relationship
A constant thirst for problems
in your relationship may mean that you love to create drama with your significant
other. Some people call this struggle love. It can mean that someone subconsciously
assigns false value and worth to their relationship based on their ability and
the ability of their partner to remain in a relationship of constant conflict,
arguing, and fighting. To them, if they stay in a toxic and difficult
relationship, then they must really care about and love each other.
This can be a very sensitive topic because a lot of people who claim not to like drama or be dramatic may seek or cause constant drama. Rather than try to create more problems out of little things, listen to your partner and if possible, make emotionally mature adjustments and decisions that eliminate self-serving behaviors.
Here Are 10 Reasons Why Some
People Love Drama:
#1 - They’re Bored
A lot of people don’t care about
being bored, and they reason to themselves that a little bit of drama is better
than being bored. Some people operate their life without drama and don't get
bored so it can be quite funny to them to hear other people say that life
without drama is boring. Some people love drama because it can make life
interesting for them.
#2 - They View Drama As
Entertainment
Believe it or not, some
individuals survive on the adrenaline rush that’s caused by anxiety and
conflict while others never really enjoy another individual’s presence unless
they’re causing instability and conflict in the relationship. It may be
entertaining to someone who loves drama to include others in their sideshow.
#3 - They’re Toxic Or
Dysfunctional
Drama is made up of people,
their feelings, and other important things meant for social communication, and
that is where the problem can begin. Some people just love being dramatic even
when it isn't necessary. Even if the whole drama they caused is at the detriment
of another person's negative emotions or happiness, they don’t care. All they may
care about is keeping up a show, enjoying themselves, and fulfilling their
negative and self-serving interests. You can avoid or limit your time around
individuals who love drama because they can be highly toxic and dysfunctional
and appear totally oblivious to their dramatic nature and ways.
#4 - They Grew Up Around And
Learned It
Learned behavior can be a
beast depending on what’s learned and applied. Most people believe they can’t
survive without creating drama due to their inability to properly communicate
with others. Sometimes, individuals were brought up or raised by parents or
caretakers who loved drama, and that was how they communicated in their family.
Others may have learned to love drama through social media, peers, and friends
who are dramatic or love drama.
#5 - They’re Convinced It’s
Their Duty To Cause Drama
Some individuals believe that
they were born to create and cause drama. They have no reason to cause drama at
all but may believe that they’re just playing the game. They may feel a
responsibility to play their part in the drama without considering how it may
ultimately or negatively affect them or others. Drama has become their norm
and a big part of their everyday life, and they may believe that they cannot function
without it.
#6 - It Distracts Them From
The Reality Of Life
People who wish to avoid
real-life issues or fill a void in their life may tend to be dramatic because
it diverts their attention from the reality of their life. They may consider it
to be better to gossip and point fingers at others rather than focus on and
take responsibility for their own lives.
#7 - Lack Of Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence and
empathy can help you view things through other people's eyes and relate to how your
words and actions can affect someone’s life while not letting your emotions negatively get the best of you and affect others. Highly dramatic people may
recklessly do whatever’s okay to them without regard or care for the feelings
or well-being of others. They may fail to grow beyond their former poor choices
and actions and stay locked down by drama.
#8 - They Love The Attention
They Get From Drama
Oftentimes, drama may reveal
the need for someone to be the main character in an event or delusional
fairytale. This may come from an insatiable desire for attention, or it could
also be from a place of hate or self-hate. Most times, individuals who love
drama crave the spotlight because they may not have been given attention as a
child or at some point in their life.
#9 - Low Self-Worth
Low self-worth and
self-confidence are big issues in our generation today, and many people that
have these issues tend to cover them up by minding other people's businesses,
blaming others in secret, and gossiping because it makes them feel good or
better about themselves. Don’t be fooled by appearances, smiles, and materialistic
props that you may see on social media. These things can hide or mask low
self-worth when internal issues aren’t properly addressed and resolved and
manifest themselves through drama.
#10 – They’re Unhappy,
Ignorant, And Unfulfilled
Some people are just ignorant,
unhappy, and fulfilled in their lives and do not want to see others be happy
and fulfilled. So, they may create unnecessary drama to make others feel bad
about themselves. They may create or cause drama because they really don’t feel
good about who they are so it may help them temporarily boost their spirits
by causing or creating drama.
Some Tips On How To Avoid
Drama:
Are you interested in knowing how
to stop drama with others you call your friends?
·
Examine Your Relationships
What type of people are you
friends with? What type of people do you allow in your life? Are there people
in your midst that constantly seek attention, and at your expense? Consider
eliminating the number of people that cause drama in your life. For starters,
observe your circle of friends and learn their characters. You need people who
look out for you and care about you the way you care about them. If this is not
possible, then keep your distance or move on.
·
Consider How You Interact With Others
To avoid drama at school, listen
and observe before you contribute to a discussion or start up a conversation
with someone you don’t know. Don’t try to offer solutions to problems,
volunteer yourself into drama, or help if you haven't been asked unless you
have valid and legitimate reasons to do so. Even if you are asked, be careful
of what you accept or agree to.
·
Change Or Become A Role Model
If you love drama and you’re
willing to change, then that’s a good step. Changing your ways is a great way
to influence change in others. If people see that you’re genuinely trying to
stay away from drama, then they may be influenced by you and decide to do the
same.
Conclusion
Dramatic people can be found
almost everywhere in society and especially in relationships, among friends,
and colleagues. Dramatic people can make life unbearable for you if you allow
it. Therefore, the best way to avoid drama is by avoiding people who create and
cause drama altogether.
If you can't avoid them, then you can find out the root of their problems and why they’re dramatic. Be consistent in avoiding or not participating in situations that may cause them to throw dramatic tantrums and like you’re inviting their dramatic behaviors.