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10 Best Ways To Be Realistic About Your Expectations And Prevent Disappointment

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As you may know, not everything goes as planned. As a result, you may feel misled, dissatisfied, and melancholy.


You've probably heard the adage, "If you expect nothing from someone, you'll never be disappointed."


That remark is accurate; just about everyone may have experienced disappointment at some point in life. However, the more relevant question is: How frequently do you let yourself down by having unrealistic expectations of yourself or others?


Find out why you're continuously disappointed and how to decrease your expectations, not your standards.


If you're continuously dissatisfied...


It can be normal. Disappointment is a natural component of the human condition. We form ideas and goals in our heads, which we then transform into expectations. We may get unhappy with the outcome when others fail to meet our expectations. Constant disappointment can leave you feeling dissatisfied, depressed, and hurt.


As a way out, you may go the opposite way and attempt to be apathetic about everything. It is, nevertheless, difficult to go through life with no expectations, especially when others have their own. Lowering expectations without compromising your self-respect, self-dignity, standards, and values while still expressing your needs, beliefs, and identity is a good start.


What can cause this feeling of dissatisfaction? False promises, unrealistic aspirations, and self-deception can be the primary reasons for disappointment.



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1.   False promises result from the intentional misleading of others. It is not always the case that presumed friends or colleagues misinterpret a situation: it does not have to be purposeful dishonesty. Such a setback is unanticipated, and you may have little or no control over the circumstances or individual(s) who mislead you or make you false promises. You are severely dissatisfied and feel misled, especially when dealing with ostensibly good pals. However, you do have control over how you choose to deal with it, which can be positive and learning the lesson or lessons to help you grow.

 

2.   Be accountable for your unrealistic expectations. Even if it sounds harsh, this might be due to a misunderstanding or having unrealistic expectations of people. Some people blame others, even when their thoughts and actions are at fault.

 

3.   Impatience and a false self-image are common causes of self-deception. Perfectionism is an excellent example. You may change your attitude if it is the source of your disappointment. For example, future expectations might be adjusted to reality to avoid self-delusion; this reduces the likelihood of disappointment.

 

In this article, I want to share some interesting points that shed light on this topic and, more importantly, show you the 10 Best Ways To Be Realistic About Your Expectations And Prevent Disappointment.

 

1.   Understanding That There Are No Ideal Individuals Or Situations

One of the biggest reasons individuals are often disappointed is because they want others or things to be ideal. Unfortunately, it is not always the case in real life. Perfection is an ideal that does not exist in the actual world. Once you embrace this reality, it is easy to quit setting your goals too high and accept things beyond your control as they are. You will be less inclined to become agitated over little matters and will learn to flow more easily.

 

2.   Conduct Some Self-Examination

Expectations are frequently formed by the images that others have for you. Even if they don't exactly correspond with your particular hopes, you may absorb them and carry them forward.

Consider whether your life expectations connect with you when you begin evaluating them. Would accomplishing those objectives make you happy and fulfill you? If not, you may find it simpler to let go and redirect your efforts to reframing the most critical goals.

 

3.   Create Resilience Against Disappointment

If things don't work out with your employment, or other pursuits, you may be disappointed. You should view reality for what it is. Is that such a horrible thing? If you make an error, you can learn what you need to do differently next time. There is nothing you can do if someone else is at fault. Simply looking ahead and working diligently on moving on, allowing your disappointed sentiments but not allowing them to knock you down, is how you take them to heart. Keep the faith, prepare as best as possible, and work diligently and wisely toward your goal(s) in life when faced with setbacks or roadblocks.


It is impossible to prevent disappointment. When you recognize this, you can instantly feel stronger: you accept the risk and reality of being disappointed without giving up. You know you can handle this. This resilience can shield you from being hurt or devastated by others.


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4.   Allow Yourself To Enjoy What You Have

When you spend most of your time focusing on what you want, it is easier to lose sight of the blessings you currently have. The relentless quest for a dream home, a seven-figure income, or the ideal relationship might leave you with little time for loved ones, enthusiasm, and life's most treasured pleasures.


That is not to say that you should not have plans or objectives. There's nothing wrong with pursuing happiness, a solid salary, and a loving relationship. Still, spending less time looking ahead and more time living in the now may help you see how you've already exceeded some of your aspirations.

 

5.   Keep In Mind That You Can Only Control Yourself

When setting or attempting to force your expectations onto others, it might be helpful to consider if you have any ultimate influence over the circumstance. People have attempted and failed throughout history to foretell the whims of life. Expectations focusing on what you want people to do and especially disregarding what they desire frequently fall flat.


Keep emphasizing the areas over which you have control – your actions, attitude, and decisions — for more realistic and attainable results.


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6.   Show Respect

Any connection, romantic or otherwise, is built on respect. Respect is valuing the other person's viewpoint and wants; this is the foundation of productive communication. Never jokingly belittle your partner to correct them to show respect! Instead, look for a lighthearted, sympathetic approach to deflect a dispute. From there, you may identify answers without causing extra stress.

 

7.   Maintain An Open Mind

One thing to remember regarding false expectations: they may be rather strict. In reality, things can turn quickly and without notice. These modifications may open certain doors while closing others. The more adaptable your objectives are, the more they can accommodate life's volatility.

 

8.   Prepare For The Worst While Hoping For The Best

While confidence is necessary, you should also be realistic about setting expectations.

"Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst," as the saying goes; this applies to forecasting things you can't control and your skills. Instead of anticipating the ideal outcome, set your goals on something considerably more achievable and acceptable. Be mentally prepared for outcomes to go either way after you’ve given it your all.

 

9.   Don’t Assume Everyone Shares Your Views

We are frequently disappointed in relationships because we believe the other individual sees and cares about the same things we do; this is an assumption that is bound to elicit rage and disappointment. Remember that everyone interprets things differently. Inquire about and respect theirs.

 

10.                Know When To Seek Assistance

You may want assistance in getting over disappointment at times. Unfortunately, it will not be enough even if you have a fantastic support network. When this happens, you should seek expert and/or experienced assistance.


A mental health expert will guide you through your emotions and teach you how to deal with them. In addition, they will give you coping methods to help you make sense of your emotions and put things in perspective.


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Conclusion


Setting expectations is part of how our minds are organized. However, to avoid future disappointment, it is critical to focus on creating reasonable expectations. To make this work, you must cultivate self-awareness and avoid typical cognitive biases. Finally, your expectations should be founded. Knowing that setbacks are bound to happen, this may imply you're living life, and you may be precisely where you need to be, learning what you need to learn to progress or exceed your goals even when things don’t go your way.


References

 

1.   https://hbr.org/2018/08/dealing-with-disappointment


  https://www.researchgate.net/publication/222684998_Blessed_Are_Those_Who_Expect_Nothing_Lowering_Expectations_as_a_Way_of_Avoiding_Disappointment


3.https://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.1078.3045&rep=rep1&type=pdf


4.https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/emotional-intelligence-love-relationships.htm

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